Anger and frustration increases pain

The last 12 months has been very trying, and has led to me becoming a very angry person.

We’ve been looking for a new apartment for well over 8 months now. About 10 that we were very interested in, the agents have cancelled viewing appointments, or simply not shown up.

One where we were ‘first in line’, there ‘were no others looking that weekend’, we were told to give them our decision on the following Monday, was given to someone else on the Saturday before. It caused both of us major depression and much anger over Christmas time.

Why can’t people say what they mean? Why are agents so insincere and cruel?

A mistake at work by my supervisor has led to me losing one of my classes (it was forgotten to be entered into the course book). Which means I have lost quite a bit of income.

The supervisor hasn’t even apologised. “Oh well.”

Some of my well earning articles are often stolen - copied and placed around the net, both the full articles, and in spun spam comments. So many lost days filing DMCA takedown notices! Plus the lost traffic as the original gets penalised by Google for being duplicate content.

“Not our problem” says HubPages.

Family problems and the behaviour of some family members back in Australia often make me furious - I can’t do anything to help my mother physically, and powerlessness leads to anger, often directed at myself.

Sibling has a 40 year habit of breaking promises, financial and medical abuse.

Of course, anger causes tension in the body, and that directly causes an increase in muscle and nerve pain. Poor sleep and insomnia adds to the increasing pain cycle. And to complete it, pain increases lead to depression and more anger, at not being able to do the things I want. To add to problems, it means my weight is increasing again, leading to more depression and anger.

So, how to process all this anger, especially as it is triggered by uncontrollable external sources, and reduce the pain is causes?

The cats help somewhat, however, because they are still ‘kittens’, they also cause problems of their own (climbing the walls, destroying the wall paper, chewing through cords, etc.).

It’s been suggested that I try:

• meditation
• yoga
• tai chi
• CBT
• knitting
• going on a holiday
• walking or running or hiking
• other enjoyable activities

How do you deal with anger?

How do you prevent it from affecting your health?